tw self harm && i need advice please
Ugh that’s terrible: I’m so sorry. I just found this information regarding USA housing laws:
Fair Housing Act – This law makes it illegal to deny housing to a renter or buyer because of a disability. Owners must also make reasonable accommodations to people with disabilities. For instance, a blind person should be allowed to keep a Seeing Eye dog, even if the owner does not allow animals on the property.
Mental illness is a disability so if they try to evict you on the grounds that you have self-inflicted scars… well, they can’t. I hope this helps.
I don’t think you should have to explain yourself at all. If you would feel more comfortable e-mailing your landlord and giving a brief explanation, then by all means do it. But please don’t feel like you are obligated to explain yourself or your body to anyone else. Your relationship with your landlord is based on you taking proper care of your rental unit and paying your rent on time. Your history with self harm (or anything else, for that matter) is irrelevant to that relationship.
I am so sorry you felt judged and uncomfortable. You are NOT stupid. You did NOTHING wrong by wearing clothing that revealed your scars. So fucking what if your landlord saw? There are far worse things in the world that a landlord could witness. Seeing old scars on someone’s arms, in the grand scheme of things, is nothing. I know it feels so huge and shameful right now. But I promise you did nothing wrong. You have nothing to be ashamed of. You went through a difficult period in your life and you used a coping mechanism to help you survive—a coping mechanism that many, MANY other people have also turned to. You are not alone. You did what you needed to do to survive that period of your life, and now you are moving forward.
Your past and your scars do not define you. You are a beautiful, powerful, strong person. Your scars are part of your story, and I think they make you all the more beautiful. You are not a freak. You are not a screw up. You are not scary. You are not shameful. You are not weak. You are a survivor.
<3 <3 <3
Best of luck to you. Be kind to yourself and don’t let others’ judgments or stares weigh you down.
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