I have depression, and have successfully employed CBT, but not online. It helped me to stop self harming! I trained myself to break down urges until it was just second nature. Happy to answer more Qs if you want- feel free to message me. :)
Here’s some answers so far, but I think the question was primarily concerning online materials i.e. computerized cognitive (behavioural) therapy. Anyone had experience of that and would like to share?
hello! awesome blog, just wanted to ask something though - this is a general question to anyone that can answer it - has anyone done cognitive therapy - the online based stuff, and did it help? especially anyone with bipolar. thankyou!
I’m discovering there’s a strange comfort that a recovered depressive finds in sadness. When you can finally discern plain old complicated sadness from the lingering gloom. It’s like you had to get this sad to realise, you’re not down anymore, this is the norm, the right kind of sad.
“Having privilege isn’t something you can usually change, but that’s okay, because it’s not something you should be ashamed of, or feel bad about. Being told you have privilege, or that you’re privileged, isn’t an insult. It’s a reminder! The key to privilege isn’t worrying about having it, or trying to deny it, or apologize for it, or get rid of it. It’s just paying attention to it, and knowing what it means for you and the people around you. Having privilege is like having big feet. No one hates you for having big feet! They just want you to remember to be careful where you walk.”—
How much do you think that certain mental illnesses (depression, mostly) and incidences of transgendered people are a result of our society and privilege? We have a lot more time to sit around and get lost in our own heads these days. Thinking back to hunter/gatherer societies, if you didn't contribute to society then you would die. There was no "I can't bring myself to get out of bed," because the repercussions of that were not eating and not surviving. Your thoughts?
Also, with regards to trans* issues and related gender dysphorias, I really don’t think they’re a result of privileged people having too much time on their hands, no. I can’t imagine what concepts of gender our ancestors would have had in the environment of evolutionary adaptation, but I think that societal manifestations of gender roles are now entirely different to what they would have been then (would prefrontal cortical development even have been enhanced enough for this kind of self-awareness then? - hypothetical question to myself I guess). I think society definitely has a strong role to play in influencing and exacerbating mental health issues surrounding gender identity (if we lived in a society where gender wasn’t forcibly assigned at birth based on physical presentations or estimations and could instead be consciously embraced later in life / where failure to conform to normative gender expectations was not pathologized as ‘Gender Identity Disorder’, then we wouldn’t even be having this conversation. It would be a total moot point.) I don’t know, I’m from a heavily neuroscientific background and my reading on gender and society is sparse and non-academic. If anyone thinks I’ve made an arse of myself here I am totally open to discussion.
you have a point but youre also really nitpicking.
i am nitpicking when half the damn time when i turn on the radio i hear a song with lyrics that basically boil down to “love yourself the way you’re born because god” and am reminded of the fact that yes, i was assigned female at birth, and clearly all my gender dysphoria issues are me not learning to ~love myself~ and ~accept that i was born this way~ and not, you know, ACTUAL GENDER DYSPHORIA
i am nitpicking when i have to listen to cis people go on about what a great ally lady gaga is for “the lgbt community” when, aside from the passing reference to drag queens or dressing as a man for the purpose of spectacle, she doesn’t seem to care at all about the t of the acronym or various other letters of other variations (asexual, genderqueer, etc.)
Presented without comment. I really can’t muster any fucks to give about Lady Gaga, but I find commentary about her interesting, especially as it pertains to mental health.
Use of the term OCD to describe every little idiosyncrasy.
This is coming from someone who suffers from OCD. I despise the trivialization of a disorder that disrupts my everyday life and mental wellbeing. I don’t know what people think OCD is but it’s not liking your books…
“Just because you are trying does not mean recovery comes easy. It’s a battle. Yet in the end what you have accomplished and the happiness is worth all the struggles.”—Anonymously, mental illness survivor
Just want to say thank you for this blog. A lot of the posts have helped me in my own illness and made me realise that it's not just me who feels a certain way about certain aspects of it. And its not just me who has had to face a lot of hurt from people I cared about because they didn't understand. Thank you.
Thank you so much for writing this, it warmed my heart. One of the reasons I started the blog was because I used to spend 90% of my time wondering if anyone else felt the way I did. I wanted to facilitate discussion between people to show that we’re more similar than we may have thought. I just need to crack on with the physical zine now (20 pages down, at least another 20 to go for issue 1!). Keep safe, x
This reminds me of a person who left and said goodbye in the most hurtful of ways, when I really needed someone, and they knew that. They knew I was at a all time low, they knew, but obviously they didn’t know me or care enough to understand me. If they did they would have stayed and they would have helped me find myself again.
Now, I’m finding myself, I’m not on my own though. I have my family and friends for support. I have really learnt who loves me, the people who care for me, the people who understand me. Understand that underneath my moments of madness when everything gets too much I am a nice person. They have showed me that things can be better, I can get better and I am better than those said moments.
I forget these things, I forget myself in sadness, and I was relying on a person who couldn’t be there, who is emotionally unavailable. Who couldn’t support me in getting out of my rut, showing me the positives after the negative.
But I will forever remember the words said. I will always hate that person now. I wanted a few happy memories but now all I have are ones that sadden me in the worst way, I am sad because I realise they never truly cared, that all those times I let them off for their lack of support I shouldn’t have. I should have just left them then because in the end I saw who they really were. Its disappointing.
I’m glad you’ve forged a strong support system. It can take some time to do. Please don’t beat yourself up too much about those who have left you; you’re worth more than that.
i’m writing a brief piece for my fanzine about how personal style and mental illness interact, specifically in terms of those of us with ‘invisible disabilities’- if you have a mental illness, how does it affect the way you dress? the questions I’m posing to people are meant to be simple so they can be answered a variety of ways:
1. how would you describe your style & in what ways do you feel your relationship to mental illness manifests itself in the way you dress?
2. and how do you use clothing and appearance manipulation in terms of self care?
everything will be kept anonymous so if you’re willing to answer those questions for me, you can send the responses to my ask box (or if they’re too long, contact me for my email address!)
Ima work on this tonight and tomorrow. I thoroughly recommend submitting your responses!
So this probably counts as a personal post, but I think it belongs more on here than my personal blog. I was just at the gym and for some reason I had a flashback of breaking up with a guy a while ago who said “I can’t wait to find a girlfriend who isn’t mentally ill”. Now, I know that mental illness makes you no less of a person than the next guy, but it’s a flashback I have at least every few months which makes me feel momentarily shitty before I remember how awesome I am. Anyway, please think twice before you say anything hurtful like that to someone. Even if you apologise afterwards, those words can fester.
That awkward moment when you ask a new friend where they’re going and they pause for ages then say ‘a narcotics anonymous meeting… but don’t worry - I’m clean’. I hate that there’s so much stigma surrounding substance addiction; it makes recovery a total minefield for many people. Ugh.
When you post/reblog pithy little graphics or other things that bemoan others not using English words or grammar correctly, it makes me lose a lot more respect for you than anyone else. It makes me want to unfollow you…
An interesting commentary on language policing, and how we should try to look past spelling and grammar to see what someone is trying to express.
”…You don’t just get up. You have to crack open your eyes, and then realize you are late. You didn’t sleep well the night before. You have to crawl out of bed, and then you have to make your self something to eat before you can do anything else, because if you don’t, you can’t take your medicine, and if you don’t take your medicine you might as well give up all your spoons for today and tomorrow too.”
A long but important read on living with illnesses and/or disabilities - neither of which, to my knowledge, I suffer from. But it’s good to educate yourself, I think. This theory gets referenced a lot without much explanation (and understandably so, as the people referencing it are familiar with it and this isn’t a bad summer movie where everybody spouts expository information at every chance they get just in case) and it may seem to some people like it’s insignificant or some sort of catchphrase.
[tw: this conversation addresses dismissive & oppressive behavior, including ableism, cissexism and gender binarism.]
Okay. So “special snowflake” is generally used to insult people who are perceived as going to great lengths to be seen as unique individuals, right? It’s primary function is to shame people who want to differentiate themselves from the status quo, as opposed to people who just are different.
First problem: we can’t really tell the difference between these two things because we are not mind readers. We don’t know if someone is trying really hard to stand out, or if they just stand out because it’s who they are. So the function of “special snowflake” automatically extends to shame all people who are non-conforming; the more someone deviates from the norm, the more likely they are to be branded a “special snowflake.”
Second problem: standing out is seen as negative. Implication: We are supposed to strive for normalcy. We are only allowed to deviate from the norm if it’s something we can’t control. Wanting to be different is shameful. The norm is exalted, and the norm is white, middle-class, cis, het, male, and lacking disability. So the concept serves to enforce social norms - specifically Western social norms - by ridiculing those who stray.
Third problem: Calling someone a “special snowflake” is an automatic way to shut down someone’s argument and dismiss not only what they are saying, but their entire self, as being invalid. It draws lines between what is an acceptable deviation, and what is not; what are acceptable identities to claim, and what are not. This is typically quite oppressive.
Fourth problem: People are regarded as “special snowflakes” that are merely seeking attention in desperate ways. This pathologizes attention-seeking behavior when attention-seeking is in fact, normal and healthy. It also ignores the fact that many people have to fight for their identities to be seen as valid.
Examples of how this is used:
Anyone who claims a non-binary gender identity just wants to be a special snowflake.
A lot of genderqueer people aren’t actually genderqueer; they just want to be special snowflakes.
People who use a lot of labels to define themselves just want to be seen as special snowflakes.
If you pass as privileged on an axis but claim to be oppressed on that axis, you’re trying to be a special snowflake.
You aren’t oppressed; you’re only angry because people aren’t treating you like the special snowflake you think you are.
There’s already a word for that; you made that term up to be a special snowflake.
Most of the time when I see this used, on the internet specifically, it’s being used toward people with invisible disabilities, and people who are gender non-conforming, especially nonbinaries. Please think about what you’re doing when you use the term “special snowflake” to dismiss someone. Think about why you’re using it and what function it has.
props on everything; i actually have a ‘tuesday is the coolest’ tag for moments like this :)
i’ve always wondered at what point in the history of social evolution did attention seeking become perceived as a negative behavior.
“From an early age, boys are fitted with emotional straight-jackets tailored by a restricted code of behavior that falsely defines masculinity. In the context of “stop crying,” “stop those emotions,” and “don’t be a sissy,” we define what it means to “Be a Man!” Adherence to this “boy code” leaves many men dissociated from their feelings and incapable of accessing, naming, sharing, or accepting many of their emotions. When men don’t understand their own emotions it becomes impossible to understand the feelings of another. This creates an “empathy-deficit disorder” that is foundational to America’s epidemic of bullying, dating abuse and gender violence. Boys are taught to be tough, independent, distrusting of other males, and at all cost to avoid anything considered feminine for fear of being associated with women. This leads many men to renounce their common humanity with women so as to experience an emotional disconnect from them. Women often become objects, used to either validate masculine insecurity or satisfy physical needs. When the validation and satisfaction ends, or is infused with anger, control or alcohol, gender violence is often the result.”—Joe Ehrmann, former NFL player, from “Men Can Stop Rape” .
I need to work on the physical manifestation of the zine today. I haven’t done it in ages and I feel bad about it. There is so much to do, it feels kind of overwhelming.. but I get to set my own deadlines, so it’s ok. As long as it’s out before Christmas I will be happy.
Lately, I’ve been seeing more and more OCD-shaming and jokes at the expense of those who have it. This is certainly nothing new, and I’ve rather gotten used to it by this point. However, I need to say (or write)…
i have been meaning to write something about this myself. the misuse of the term OCD as an adjective, most often used to describe someone that simply likes order and cleanliness has become so frustratingly popular. every time i try to find a helpful online resource for myself, or others i know who are suffering with OCD i have to wade through hundreds of upsetting OCD shaming jokes and disturbingly ill informed definitions of the term.
i have had OCD since i can remember, and at it’s worst the illness left me paralysed in bed for weeks on end, experiencing extreme panic attacks every time i was in public, and on constant suicide watch. there is nothing fucking light or funny about that. you can’t “be OCD”. i have no idea where people have gotten the idea that OCD is a term to describe someones idiosyncrasies. the ‘D’ stands for disorder. OCD is a serious and often disabling mental illness, so stop carelessly chucking it around in conversation and printing is as a slogan on “houmorous” t-shirts . it’s not the new “it” word.
Lately, I’ve been seeing more and more OCD-shaming and jokes at the expense of those who have it. This is certainly nothing new, and I’ve rather gotten used to it by this point. However, I need to say (or write) something. This is my forum to do so.
OCD is not funny. I have it as well as Generalized Anxiety Disorder. The two often go hand in hand. I was diagnosed with both at the age of eight.
OCD is not an appropriate way for you to say that you just like things kept tidy or that you like to sort your crayons by color. OCD is not something to joke about on your T-shirt by saying “I have CDO-or OCD with the letters put in the right order”. OCD is not something VH1 should make a show about.
OCD is absolutely needing to flip the light switch just right so your mother doesn’t die or your plane doesn’t crash. OCD is absolutely needing to touch things with both hands or a certain number of times (4 in my case) so you don’t choke at your next meal or so you don’t end up alone. OCD is knowing that these thoughts are completely ridiculous but also being so afraid that you end up doing these ridiculous rituals just in case.
My mental illness is not funny. It does not belong on your television or your “hilarious” T-shirt. My mental illness has cut down on my sleep because I have to spend 10 minutes making sure I set my cell phone just right on my bedside table.
The thing is, I have MILD OCD. My experiences are on the lower end of the spectrum. I have never missed an event because of the need to do rituals or been sent into a panic attack because I couldn’t complete a ritual.
So maybe you should think before you post that joke about OCD on your dash or throw on that T-shirt. Maybe you should think so you don’t remind someone like me of how much their illness can limit them.
I’m not asking for your pity. I’ve made great strides in my recovery, and my OCD really only flares up now during times of great stress.
Celebrity breakdown stories tend to focus specifically on women, and are often presented in a way to make the consumer understand that the celebrity is weak, cracking under the pressure, simply can’t take the rough environment of Hollywood. Surely, the media assures itself, it isn’t playing any role in the mental distress of its subjects. Women who are obviously struggling with emotional turmoil must find it extremely hard to deal with it in a productive way when every move is scrutinized. You can’t even go to the hairdresser without being pursued by paparazzi when they smell blood—or an exclusive—in the water.
There’s an attitude that mental health health care is an “indulgence” for whiny white women (and the perception of mental health services as something only white women need plays heavily into stigma when women of color and nonwhite women consider treatment—look at the racist, misogynistic stories surrounding Rihanna, for example, and how they played into the “strong black woman” archetype), and the eager pursuit of celebrity breakdown stories really feeds into that. These women are depicted as weak, selfish, and useless. If they do seek treatment, the media will be filled with speculation along with nasty comments about, say, the parklike environs of expensive inpatient drug rehabilitation centers. When they die, commentators immediately and eagerly attribute it to personal weakness and assume those deaths are substance abuse or mental health related; the same publications that ridiculed and mocked them for erratic behavior like slurring songs on stage happily publish photographs of them being taken out of their homes in body bags.
If you healing from sexual assault and you get out of bed in the morning, You are doing well.
If you healing from sexual assault and you hold down a job, You are amazing.
If you are healing from sexual assault and and you are still remotely pleasant to others, You are a lot nicer than me.
If you are healing from sexual assault and you cannot always be there for a friend, You are still a good friend and a strong enough person to know what is best for you.
If you are healing from sexual assault, and find it difficult to care for yourself, but still find the strength to care and love your family than you are strong as well.
If you are healing from sexual assault and you decide to tell your story, You are brave.
If you are healing from sexual assault and you decide that you are not ready to tell your story, You are also brave.
If you are healing from sexual assault and you cry daily or have nightmares, You are normal.
If you are healing from sexual assault and seeing happy, healthy people makes you sad, angry, jealous and worse, Join the club.
If you are healing from sexual assault and you decide to press charges against your perpetrator, You have incredible courage.
If you are healing from sexual assault and you cannot or choose not to press charges against your perpetrator, Your perpetrator is still the one to blame, and you are smart for knowing what you can handle.
If you are healing from sexual assault and think that what happened was your fault, You are wrong, but you are not alone.
If you are healing from sexual assault and are jealous that some survivors put their abuser in jail, You are one of many.
If you are healing from sexual assault and feel like your significant other truly understands and is 100% supportive, He or she is rare and a keeper.
If you are healing from sexual assault and you have a good support system, It will help A LOT.
If you are healing from sexual assault and you don’t have enough people who understand what you are going through,
I strongly recommend joining a support group.
If you are healing from sexual assault and were not believed or supported when you found the courage to tell,
You still deserve to be heard, no matter how long ago it was.
If you are healing from sexual assault and you feel like you hate your body, Remember your spirit is held within your body.
If you are healing from sexual assault and feel painfully alone and isolated, Please know that there are thousands of people healing with you in spirit.
If you are healing from sexual assault and there are days where the only thing you are able to do is exist, Remember, we are existing with you till you can live again.
If you are healing from sexual assault but still looking to the future, You are a survivor.
I am sorry. It doesn’t matter if your sentences aren’t following certain fascist rules. It only matters if people can understand you, and I obviously could understand what you were saying because I tried to correct it. I know now that policing people’s grammar isn’t okay because there are many ways to speak/write English, and grammar usually describes the white, educated, uppermiddleclass way. Please forgive me.
No one likes when I toss that sentiment around which I do all the time, and my 3 readers know this…but there you have it. From the Director’s blog (Thomas Insel, MD) at the National Institute of Mental Health, introduces how they are “defining mental illness as a disruption of neural circuits”.
If ”mental disorders appear to be disorders of brain circuits” then it would follow that, “mapping patterns of cortical activity [would] reveal mechanisms of mental function that are just not apparent by observing behavior.” Meaning, perhaps the behavior we see, is a result of a developmental circumstance - going beyond chemical imbalances.
So, the debates start, as they do, mainly relying on what we don’t know yet from neuroscience. Lot’s of questions, lots of room for research and lots of funding! (no, just kidding). But what we do have is this: various neuroimaging techniques have made it possible to identify biomarkers, or “patterns that predict response to treatment or possibly reflect changes in physiology prior to changes in behavior or mood”. A deeper knowledge of underlying neural circuitry in developmental stages can change the way we understand behavior, diagnose and develop treatments.
An important implication of this new approach is that abnormal behavior and cognition (e.g. mood, attention) may be late and convergent outcomes of altered brain development. This is a familiar lesson from neurodegenerative disorders: the symptoms of Alzheimer’s, Parkinson’s, and Huntington’s diseases emerge years after changes in the brain. Could the same be true of these circuit disorders that appear early in life? If so, could imaging allow earlier detection and preemption of the behavioral and cognitive changes – from the social isolation of autism to the psychosis of schizophrenia? This preemptive approach, which has transformed outcomes in heart disease and cancer, could also transform psychiatry, by focusing on prevention for those at risk rather than the partial amelioration of symptoms late in the process. Via
"You may have seen some news stories saying one part of the brain is bigger, or smaller, in people with a certain mental health problem, or even a specific job. These are generally based on real, published research. But how reliable are the studies?"
Mental illness is one of those issues that not even smart people have a good grasp of. So we probably shouldn’t be surprised that Hollywood’s treatment of it is about as informed and respectful as showing up drunk to a stranger’s funeral and crapping in the casket.
From serial killer movies to sappy mental hospital dramas, Hollywood uses mental illness as a convenient plot point, often forgetting to do even five minutes of Googling on the subject first.
I’ve been seeing an awful lot of tone policing on my dash lately. It seems a lot of people don’t really understand why someone would respond aggressively or angrily, or otherwise emotionally, to having something really fucked up/hurtful/oppressive said to them. Or, they think it’s counterproductive to respond in that way.
First off, the reason that people may respond in a “harsh” manner to oppression: Living in a world that reminds you daily of your lesser worth as a human being can make a person very tired and emotional. When someone says something oppressive — that can be a racist slur, an ableist stereotype, a misogynist dismissal, an invalidation of identity/experiences, being asked invasive and entitled questions, and so on – it feels like being slapped in the face, to the person on the receiving end. The automatic response is emotion and pain. It’s quite exhausting and difficult to restrain the resulting anger. And, frankly, it’s cruel and ridiculous to expect a person to be calm and polite in response to an act of oppression. Marginalized people often do not have the luxury of emotionally distancing themselves from discussions on their rights and experiences.
Second, tone policing is the ultimate derailing tactic. When you tone police, you automatically shift the focus of the conversation away from what you or someone else did that was wrong, and onto the other person and their reaction. Tone policing is a way of not taking responsibility for fucking up, and it dismisses the other person’s position by framing it as being emotional and therefore irrational. The conflation of emotionality with irrationality is often used to silence women and people who are read as women, when they are trying to speak about anything at all. It’s also used against all marginalized people when they attempt to speak about their very personal experiences with oppression. But being emotional does not make one’s points any less valid. It’s also important to note that, by tone policing, you not only refuse to examine your own oppressive behavior, but you also can blame that on the other person, because they were not “nice enough” to be listened to or taken seriously.
Third, the implications: Tone policing assumes that the oppressive act is not an act of aggression, when it very much is. The person who was oppressed by the action, suddenly is no longer a victim, but is “victimizing” the other person by calling them out. Now, I’m not saying it’s okay to be abusive, or oppressive in response to a person who fucks up. But anger is valid. Anger is valid, anger is important, anger brings social change, anger makes people listen, anger is threatening, and anger is passion. Anger is NOT counterproductive; being “nice” is counterproductive. Nobody was ever given rights by politely asking for them. Politeness is nothing but a set of behavioral expectations that is enforced upon marginalized people.
If you see someone who is angry and upset about something that was said or done to them, don’t tell them they should be nicer. Instead: Recognize their emotions as valid. Recognize that their emotional state is an indication that something extremely harmful was done to them, whether it was by you, or someone else. Work to understand why the action was oppressive. Take all that energy that you’re wasting being so concerned with how people are responding to their own oppression, and channel it into fighting oppression.
TUESDAY HITTIN IT OUT OF THE PARK AS USUAL
“Anger is NOT counterproductive; being “nice” is counterproductive.”
I don’t understand how so many people can say, “yeah, but it was her fault because of the drugs.” How can you not have any empathy for someone with an addiction problem? Actually, it must be pretty easy to say that if you’ve never seen someone you love or respect struggle with that, but if you…
Substance.abuse disorder is a mental illness. I don’t know what to say beyond asking people to take a step back and have a think before jumping to place blame in this situation. A young woman has died. She was ill. It is terribly sad.
I’ve been sober and drug-free for about a year and a half. My personal sobriety is something that’s really important to me, but I really don’t care if you drink/smoke/use drugs (although I get super uncomfortable if people are intoxicated around me, especially straight men, especially in safer spaces). Although I’ve identified as straight edge in the past, I’m torn about continuing doing so. Straight edge culture is fucking stupid. Most people who claim edge are straight white rich boys who have never had to deal with the pressures and oppression that frequently drive people to use in the first place. The “kill your local drug dealer” mentality does nothing to address the root causes of drug use. Straight edge, as practiced by most of its adherents, is just another way to wave around one’s class privilege. I’ve never been in a financial position where I’ve needed to sell drugs to get by, or felt that my situation was so bad that I needed drugs to cope. That’s a fucking privilege, and it’s not true for a lot of people.
From the time I quit using substances until I moved away from Vermont, straight edge was really important to me. When I lived on a farm 2 hours away from any friends and I was the only one in the house who didn’t drink or get high on a regular basis, that straight edge identity helped me pull through and not cave in. When I lived in a rural town of 1200 people and I sat alone in my room on weekends because all my friends were getting wasted, straight edge kept me strong. If I hadn’t set up that fear of being shamed for “breaking edge” (you know the rhetoric - “it’s a life-long commitment!”), I’d probably still be using.
But I don’t need that fear of shaming to stay sober anymore. I have friends who are sober (and friends who aren’t always sober but respect my need to not be around intoxicated folks) and I can find plenty of things to do that don’t involve getting wasted. Sobriety is both more important to me than it was when I first claimed edge, and easier to maintain. I don’t need the label of straight edge to live what I believe. At one time I did, and there are plenty of people who still do. By all means, do what you need to live the life you want. I just don’t think straight edge is relevant for me anymore.
Yes, there are ladies, queers, and trans folks who claim edge and are reclaiming it as something positive (especially sex-positive). There are people without class privilege who are straight edge. That’s awesome. But that’s not what most people think of when you say straight edge - most people think of the sexist dudebros who use straight edge as a purity contest, who engage in slut-shaming because Ian MacKaye said “don’t fuck” in Out of Step, who have no class analysis and think that because they managed to stay drug-free, everyone else can and should. I don’t want to have anything to do with those dudes. I don’t want my identity to endorse that behavior.
We need new models of radical sobriety that aren’t based on propping up systems of oppression. Making people feel shitty for wanting distractions from being oppressed or choosing a particular coping mechanism does nothing to address the root causes of that need for distraction. We need to attack capitalism and racism and sexism and homophobia and every other kind of oppression, not targets of oppression who need a coping mechanism.
I’m probably going to receive a proverbial firestorm from people who think I’ve misrepresented straight edge. I really don’t care if you think “we’re not all that bad!” (and duh, not all straight edge kids are shitheads). Yes, straight edge can be liberating and empowering. For a while, it meant a lot to me. If claiming edge is keeping you sober, by no means am I telling you to stop claiming edge. But we also need to consider the broader implications of identifying with a scene in which the most vocal adherents actively perpetuate the systems of oppression they claim to be fighting.
this is totally awesome. bolding some stuff i liked if you don’t have time to read the whole thing.
Going to go ahead and file this under: why it’s not cool to shame people with substance abuse disorders.