I’m really mad/sad about how many women are having (consensual, but) unsatisfying sex b/c of inconsiderate partners, heterosexism, trauma, dysphoria, other mental health issues that make it hard to inhabit your body, etc
I believe that someday we can talk about this without it devolving into “have more sex to be more liberated” but I’m not holding my breath
The resource has been written primarily to assist trans people who experience domestic abuse. There is information as well as links to UK resources.
To view the full booklet, click here.
This is your daily reminder that self-indulgence can be a form of self-care.
That ‘because it makes me feel better’ is a completely valid reason to do something.
That if something makes you happy then it is not pointless or a waste of time.
That if doing something makes you feel better then it is not something that is unproductive to do.
And that doing things that make you feel okay is just as important as anything else.
Be kind to yourself. Stop telling yourself that whatever you are struggling with “should” be easy. If something is hard for you, it is hard for you. There are probably Reasons, though those may just be how you are wired. Acknowledge these things. When you finish something hard, be proud! Celebrate a little.How to keep moving forward, even when your brain hates you.
And really, just stop saying “should” to yourself about your thoughts and feelings in any context. You feel how you feel. The things in your head are the things in your head. You can’t change either directly through sheer force of will. You can only change what you do. Stop beating yourself up for who and what you are right now–it isn’t productive. Focus on moving forward.
[Image description: A photograph of a person with a ponytail in waist deep water, cradling a baby manatee and holding a bottle to its mouth. TEXT: “You do not always have to do everything by yourself. There is nothing wrong with letting those who love you, help you.”]
friendly reminder that you don’t have to be around people who upset you or make you uncomfortable, even if those people are “friends” or “family”. you don’t owe them anything and you don’t deserve to be treated that way. you should surround yourself with people that are emotionally supportive because you deserve to be happy.
Study Reveals Depression is a Miscommunication Between Brain Cells
A new study from the University of Maryland School of Medicine suggests that depression results from a disturbance in the ability of brain cells to communicate with each other. The study indicates a major shift in our understanding of how depression is caused and how it should be treated. Instead of focusing on the levels of hormone-like chemicals in the brain, such as serotonin, the scientists found that the transmission of excitatory signals between cells becomes abnormal in depression.
freemints asked: I just think everybody should be aware that the autism-vaccination research was literal fraud. Like, Wakefield's medical license got taken away because of it. He falsified medical histories and results for the purpose of financial gain. There is ACTUALLY no basis to his research, and it's clear the kind of damage it has done to public health. It all just makes me very sad.
allibys asked: Thanks for clarifying it for me! That's exactly what I meant, and I definitely could have worded it better :)
No problem. I worry of speaking “on behalf” of other people, especially when I’m speaking about lived experience which is theirs, not mine… but as long as you’re comfortable with my interpretation/clarification then that’s ok I guess.
@everyone: You’re right. I’ve been doing some thinking and autism, in a technical sense, is a mental illness I actually have clinical depression and an anxiety disorder, and I feel like my autism is somewhat… “separate” from those? They’re things that I WANT to be rid of. I want to be happy and unafraid. I don’t want to be neurotypical. Basically, mindovermatter hit the nail on the head in the edit.
allibys asked: @bonesandwhatnot: autism is _not_ a mental illness- that implies that it can be cured. And preventing their (our) "pain"? Fuck that. I _like_ the way my brain works, and most of the autistic people I've spoken to online like theirs, too. We don't want to be cured! And we (everyone) don't need people like you perpetuating lies and putting children at risk.
Edit: Some folks have asked what about “mental illness” implies cure, and “why do get people get so defensive when autism is referred to as a mental illness?”. I agree mental illness can’t necessarily be “cured” (you can undergo periods of recovery and remission, and recovery is a deeply personal process that doesn’t necessarily imply that you are no longer ill), but the psychiatric community is built on the concept of lessening mental illness / returning people to “mental health”. So, I think what allibys is referring to is the belief that Autism isn’t something that you ‘have’ or ‘don’t have’ - it’s a state of neurological difference that is no better or worse than being neurotypical: it’s not a state of illness so it’s not something that needs to be ‘cured’ or ‘recovered from’ or changed:
Autism has traditionally been seen as a shell from which a ‘normal’ child might one day emerge. But some advocates contend that autism is an integral part of their identities, much more like a skin than a shell, and not one they care to shed.
The effort to cure autism, they say, is not like curing cancer, but like the efforts of a previous age to cure left-handedness. Some worry that in addition to troublesome interventions, the ultimate cure will be a genetic test to prevent autistic children from being born
bonesandwhatnot asked: My brother is severely Autistic. As a result, my mother has opted to never vaccinate us unless it is required by our schools. I receive the necessary vaccinations but abstain from the optional vaccinations. I never felt unsafe or not well-protected by this decision from my mother. Also, I never perceived it as a negative reaction to Autism. Rather, I viewed it as my mother attempting to be preventive. We should accept mental illnesses, but I think their pain is worth preventing.
…Except there’s no evidence that Autism is caused by vaccinations.